Deborah Pearce Hypnotherapy Deborah Pearce

Solution Focused Hypnotherapy in and around East Devon

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When Life Gives you Lemons…

Working as I do in the Solution Focused approach, does not mean that life does not serve up the occasional lemon.  Adopting a positive attitude to life does not make you immune the occasional setback or hiccup.  But, as the saying goes, 'When life gives you lemons, make lemonade'.

 

I am careful to explain this to clients, who are sometimes disappointed that they let someone annoy them, or they had an off-day in between sessions.

 

We will none of us reach a state where there are no challenges to be overcome.

 

What’s different about using a Solution Focused approach is recognising a number of things about life’s lemons:

    • Viewing a setback as a challenge or a threat makes all the difference to how well you cope with it.
    • Approached with a ‘can do’ attitude, a setback is only a temporary affair.
    • By overcoming life’s occasional challenge, we become more resilient and better able to cope in the future.

After more than a decade of immersing myself in Solution Focused techniques, I find it relatively easy to see the upside in most situations.  My brain naturally begins a process of ‘OK, that’s a nuisance, but at least it means x, y or z’, which enables me to see a positive future beyond the problem at hand.

 

To be fair, I already had a ‘can-do’ approach to life generally, and that’s what attracted me to Solution Focused Hypnotherapy, but the good news is that anyone can learn to develop a more robust approach to life’s hazard.

 

Whether you see yourself as a victim or a survivor, a pawn or a player, a drain or a radiator will determine how you handle a tricky situation.  You respond how you respond because that’s how you’ve always done it. 

 

Fortunately you can re-wire your brain to be more resilient, because your brain is malleable.  Changing how you respond is achievable by imagining how you would prefer to react in a given situation:

    • How do you want to come across in that job interview?
    • How do you want to behave when your children are throwing tantrums?
    • How do you want to respond when the decorator has made a blunder?

 

Visualising how you want to be is the key to developing a more resilient approach to life.

 

And that way you can make lemonade no matter how many lemons come your way.